The Anxieties- Defensive Mechanisms That We Use Everyday

Many of the anxieties that we have could be used in a healthy manner. This defensive mechanisms are healthy unless overused, in other words it have a negative and/or positive effect on humans. The ones I have used are denial and intellectualism. Denial is when you cannot face the truth, and intellectualism is when you think about or examine feelings as if you were another person.

In many instance, I have denied feelings, emotions, and truths to and from my friends and family members. For example, I have denied instances especially when I love or do feel something for a girl. Other instances, I have denied stuffs like when I do something wrong, and that is because I have always had a clean record. I usually don't behave bad; I am peaceful. One time, I was in class and I was fooling around with a mirror, and I reflected it to a teacher's face, at the time I was in class, and the teacher saw the reflection. The teacher went in to my class, and he was asking who did it, I denied it totally, and they did only found the mirror.

Sometimes consciously and unconsciously, I have intellectualized instances that are very important in my life. For example, when I love a girl, I ask and analyze the situation asking myself if, “I do really love that person?” If, “I do want to be with that person?” If, “I will be able to handle the situation?” What I like about that person? How much time I want to be with that person? Other instances are when I think about school/education; for example, I always think about, “what I will do when I finish Sixth form?” What must I do to improve my studies? How could I achieve better grades? Do I like the subject that I am taking?

What I must do to improve these defensive mechanisms? I have to start living the reality of this world, and not to believe in fantasy world’s again.